Is a perfect romance possible? by Kim Lindenback

Is a perfect romance possible? by Kim Lindenback

There is so much media hype and content out in our world today that shows perfect people with a perfect life!  But in reality life and a loving relationship takes a lot of work by both parties involved.  Having been one of those people who believed that a good relationship just happened, I know first hand how difficult it is to struggle to get a relationship that has gone off course back on track.  It is much easier to keep on track than bring it back on course after the fact.  It may not even be possible to bring a relationship back after it has been derailed.  So keeping the romance in a relationship is key to keeping it a feasible one! 

But is romance actually possible? Frankly, anything is possible if you put you mind to it! One romantic gesture may make one woman swoon and fall all over themselves to impress their partner, but may make the next one gag in disgust.  Therefore, you have to pay attention to your partner to find out what they like because what worked in your last relationship may not work in this one!  Effective communication is by far the easiest way to accomplish this.  The more you know about your partners likes and dislikes the more success you will have in finding the things that make them weak in the knees.

Everyone likes to have their ego stroked.  There are some people who enjoy compliments more than others and some that require constant compliments in order to feel good about themselves.  Low self esteem is a persistent problem for some people and they don't take compliments well.  Again by knowing you partner you will be able to give that special person in your life the right amount and kind of compliments to make them feel special.

Long stem roses or violets? Doing the dishes or taking out the garbage? Giving flowers seems like the most obvious romantic gesture if you are thinking about wooing your female partner.  But that isn't always the case.  Many times I have felt more attracted to a man that has helped me around the house with everyday chores than one who has bought me expensive gifts!  The whole purpose of a relationship is to help each other, therefore when a partner helps me with my tasks then I feel more inclined to help them with their tasks.  Besides that by helping your partner you are spending time with them improving your bond.

Another way to be romantic is to give your partner time to themselves.  One of the most romantic gifts I was given by a partner was a weekend get away to a spa where I could just relax and look after me and my needs for a few days!  Even just an afternoon to myself is a wonderful treat.

Romance in my opinion doesn't have to be expensive or time consuming.  The simpler and more heart felt that a gesture is the more romantic it is.  Being in tune with your partner is the best romantic gift that can be given.